Friday, October 30, 2015

Lean in

“Put somebody on a treadmill and I’ll tell you how good they are at any other thing they do in life.” Will Smith

Will shares his experience of failure:
“After Earth comes out, I get the box-office numbers on Monday and I was devastated for about twenty-four minutes, and then my phone rang and I found out my father had cancer. That put it in perspective—viciously. And I went right downstairs and got on the treadmill. And I was on the treadmill for about ninety minutes. And that Monday started the new phase of my life, a new concept: Only love is going to fill that hole. You can’t win enough, you can’t have enough money, you can’t succeed enough. There is not enough. The only thing that will ever satiate that existential thirst is love. And I just remember that day I made the shift from wanting to be a winner to wanting to have the most powerful, deep, and beautiful relationships I could possibly have.”

Will says that in his house they have this quote up on the wall:

“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.” Pema Chödrön

Will summarises the meaning of these words for his family:
“We call it leaning into the sharp parts. Something hurts, lean in. You just lean into that point until it loses its power over you. There’s a certain amount of suffering that you have to be willing to sustain if you want to have a good life.”
“Don’t let success go to your head and failure go to your heart” - Daphne Maxwell Reid, Aunt Viv on Fresh Prince.

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Be Happy

The Happiest People Don’t Have The Best Of Everything, They Just Make The Best Of Everything

This is one of my favorite mantras because it’s not about having EVERYTHING – love, money, career etc., all going well simultaneously necessarily – it’s about making the best out of what you have, and what is going well in your life, to balance out what may not be going so well.

Happiness is something that we all seek. Every goal we set, every achievement we pursue, every relationship we engage in, and every journey we embark on is really just an attempt to feel happiness.

We are all meant to find our happiness, and sometimes there is no easy way there. Sometimes it takes a few bad decisions in order to get to the good ones. I believe that this is all part of life and we can either take it or leave it. While most of us take it, we wind up finding that maybe our bad decisions were the right ones all along.

Life consists of a series of unfolding events; some of these events are expected and some are unexpected. The happiest people on earth have learned that they can't control everything in life. This is a key element in living happily. While having the best of everything is great, it is not necessarily a requirement for a happy life. The secret for a successful and happy life resides in making the best out of everything-in finding the right balance between the little and the big things-and in knowing how to wisely respond to the good and the bad times.

The happiest people on earth look forward, not backward. They take action to create solutions to face and deal with whatever it is that they are going through.

The happiest people on earth visualize positive outcomes. They are patient and know that things will work out in one way or another as nothing in life permanent.

The happiest people on earth are grateful for what they have. They have an attitude of gratitude and highly value their family and friends, and everything they have. They live in the now and know that complaining about what they don't have at the moment is senseless.

The happiest people on earth realize that they can't do it all. They are humble in character and reach out to their circle of friends and family for help when they need it.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Happy people don’t make excuses or blame others for their own failures in life. Instead, they own up to their mistakes and, by doing so, they proactively try to change for the better.

The happiest people on earth take leaps of faith. They step out their comfort zone into their courage zone to explore the unknown and the uncertain. They are confident that believing in what they cannot see can come to reality and bring great happiness and success to their lives.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Anything - Everything

How you do anything is how you do everything. 
Take a moment to read this sentence again, and fully absorb the meaning in these words: How you do anything is how you do everything.
This statement is not to be taken lightly and can enhance your life immensely.
How you handle and manage any situation, challenge or experience in your life is how you probably handle all of them.

How I hold a yoga pose. How I finish my track workout. How I treat my body. What I make for dinner. How I speak to my friend. How I greet a stranger. How I drive in traffic. How I write my final paper. How I keep myself sane and centered. How I separate laundry. How I budget. How I schedule my day.

If I do simple, ordinary things in a careless, half-assed way, it will become my trademark. Maybe not all at once, but slowly it will. That’s how weight creeps on, relationships fizzle out, kids go astray, dreams fade, and good assignments go to other writers. 

Because how you do anything is how you do everything, it is important to be honest about how you do the "anything".

For example, how do you perform at work? What are you friendships like? How to you approach a challenge?

If you are late with deadlines at work and do not pay close attention to detail, then the chances are that these characteristics can be seen in your personal life and relationships as well. If you often find yourself having conflict with friends and family members, you will probably find that there is conflict in the other areas of your life too.

If you procrastinate, you procrastinate in everything. The first step is to understand, admit and truly own up to it. Understand that this problem affects every area of your life! It’s what’s holding you back and it’s what’s keeping you where you’ve always been. Habit’s cause a lack of growth and keep you in the same routine. You must first, change your habits. Success comes with growth so you must break and replace these habits. 

Another way to follow the principle “how you do anything is how you do everything” is to be passionate about everything you do. Make a decision to live life on purpose and put effort into everything you do.

Once you understand how you do “anything,” you can make grand changes for your life in general. Perhaps now is the time to break old patterns and set new standards for yourself. The way you eat, the way you spend money, the way you have relationships is an expression of who you are and what you believe. Look at what you’re doing and instead of trying to fix problems or make them go away, become interested in them as an opportunity to learn what’s really going on.

If we do simple, ordinary things in a mindful, intentional way, this will become our trademark. When we pay attention. When we care enough to be present and tune in. When we remember that the little things add up to become the big things.

When we find a way to incorporate love into anything we do, it works its way into everything we do. And one day, perhaps, love will simply be who we are.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Friday, October 23, 2015


We live in a world of constant communication and bombardment of sound.  IPhones, IPads, Internet connect us to anyone at anytime.  Silence has come to be something we fear.  It is unnatural.
A lot of times we just talk and talk but without actually saying anything. Maybe it’s because we want to feel that we’re heard and that people acknowledge our presence and existence.
Wouldn’t it be wiser to talk less and say more while at the same time immersing ourselves in those moments of silence and allowing them to just be?

The adaptation to silence also dissolves barriers between ourselves and others. Although words are mainly intended to form bridges of communication, they often have the opposite effect. Many people use words simply to fill the void that they feel inside themselves. They are uncomfortable with silence, and so they chatter. They hope to connect with others, but often the chatter prevents any real communication. As they sense that they are not experiencing the intimate connection they hope for, they may even increase their chatter, going off into tangents of no relevance whatsoever in the hope that more words will somehow convey their feelings.
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” ~ Plato

We have forgotten what it means to be silent.

There’s nothing wrong with silence. I don’t know how we got this idea that silence is awkward and that it should be avoided at all costs. 

“It has been said that it’s the space between the bars that holds the tiger. And it’s the silence between the notes that makes the music. It is out of the silence, or “the gap,” or that space between our thoughts, that everything is created-including our own bliss.” – Wayne Dyer

Silence is a precious gift. In that space between our words it’s where we find ourselves. When the mind is quiet, when there are no thoughts and no words to be said, we can hear our own heart talking to us. We can hear our own soul and our own intuition.

The reason why so many of us are under so much stress is because we haven’t yet learned how to quiet our minds and embrace silence. We haven’t yet learned to appreciate and see the value and the wisdom that comes from being quiet.

“There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.” - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

When we allow ourselves to be quiet, to breathe in and breathe out, without the need to force ourselves into saying another word or think another thought, that’s when we can hear our inner voice, our heart and intuition. That’s when we can experience our own Divinity, our own beauty and perfection.

Silence is my greatest teacher, whispering things in my ear and helping me know things that I won’t be able to discover from anywhere else.

“Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom.” ~ Francis Bacon

Learn to talk less, say more. When you use your words, use them because they will brighten someone’s day and because they will teach people something valuable. Don’t just use words for the sake of using them. Use them because you have something to say.

“Fear less, hope more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Hate less, love more; And all good things are yours.” ~ Swedish proverb

When two minds are well steeped in silence, a fantastic communication ensues. Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh once said of his friendship with Martin Luther King Jr., “You could tell him just a few things, and he understood the things you did not say.”

The Sufis and Taoists say that those who say, don’t know; and those who know, don’t say.

Learning to still the mind’s dialogue opens the door to a domain of silence that has the potential to heal and transform your life. As you tap into this inner silence, you begin the process of shifting your internal reference point from ego to soul, from fear to love, from anxiety to peace, and from constriction to expansion.

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” - Ram Dass