Sunday, February 14, 2016

Me, You ❤

Relationships are at the heart of most of our significant life experiences. They help to nurture our body and soul and teach us many important lessons.
In order to be able to commit to another person, you first must be committed to yourself.  This means you have to take the time to ensure you are healthy–physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
The two fundamental building blocks for relationship success are healthy Self-esteem and healthy Boundaries.
Instead of searching for someone else to fill your needs and inner emptiness, turn your attention inwards and try to understand what is missing inside you that you cannot give to yourself. To start with, begin working on healing your childhood wounds and start loving and accepting yourself as you are. Take time to be alone. Look inside. Contemplate over your needs and wants. Meditate, go for walks in nature, dance, and enjoy a beautiful sunset. Give to yourself what you usually look to receive from others.
When we blame or judge others for how we feel we inevitably also judge and blame ourselves. Instead of blaming others, look inside and ask yourself: Why am I being triggered by what he or she said? Why am I blaming him or her for how I feel? What is this person or situation teaching me about myself? Pay attention to how others reflect back what you need to see about yourself. Try to understand what you are being shown about yourself and what lessons you need to learn. Remind yourself that other people are wonderful mirrors to help you see your unconscious thought patterns and grow.
When you value yourself and see yourself as equal to others, you are able to honour your thoughts, beliefs and opinions in the face of your partner’s disapproval or disappointment.
Good boundaries allow you to hear constructive critiques but dismiss judgments. Boundaries allow you to be both connected and protected at the same time.
Honesty is an absolute must if we want to have harmonious, intimate and loving relationships. Don't compromise your inner truth and don't manipulate. Be honest with people no matter what the consequences.
Every relationship offers us many opportunities to learn and to grow. 

“If you love a person, you say to that person, "Look, I love you, whatever that may be. I've seen quite a bit of it and I know there's lots that I haven't seen, but still it's you and I want you to be what you want to be. And I won't be happy if I've got you in a cage. You'd be a bird without song."- Alan Watts

Tuesday, February 2, 2016


Grounding is a complex phenomena that cannot be described all that easily.  However, most people know of others who they consider well-grounded.  These people are often realistic, practical, organized, present when you speak with them.

Being grounded means that you're present in your body and connected with the earth, allowing you to feel centered and balanced no matter what's going on around you.

Grounding yourself is a way to build a relationship with Earth. Grounding means to make a conscious connection between your self and the source of your life force energy. Your job, relationship and home are not your true source of life force energy.

If you aren't grounded, you're like a leaf in the wind: very vulnerable and thrown off balance very quickly. But when you are well grounded, you are like a big, strong tree.

Grounding and centering has much to do with understanding your limits and boundaries.

There are many ways to ground yourself.

Care very well for your body.  Be sure to go to bed by 9 PM every night, or at least most nights. If possible, spend some time out of doors each day, near the earth, preferably in a rural, quiet setting.  Also, try to spend time alone every day, and not on the telephone, but just with yourself.  If possible, focus attention on the earth, not the scenery or intellectual conversation or thoughts.

Any physical activity (sports, walking, dancing, gardening, etc.) will automatically ground you. Walking slowly and deliberately is very helpful for centering and grounding.  Think about your feet as you walk and send your energy into the earth with each slow, deliberate step.

Eat quality food and maintain healthful eating habits.  Eat simple, regular meals at regular intervals, sitting down quietly when you eat and staying put for at least a few minutes after eating to allow digestion to begin.

Besides eating healthfully, other aspects of life can often be simplified.  This does not mean sitting around the house doing nothing.  Quite the opposite is true.  Most successful, busy people have mastered simplicity in their lives.  This makes room to accomplish all that they do.  Simplicity means slowing down, avoiding distractions, and mainly letting go of people, things and activities that either upset you or just waste your time.

Grounding and centering, in part, refer to the quality and health of the first chakra of the body.  This subtle energy center is sometimes also called the root chakra.  It is located just above the perineum, which is the area between the rectum and the genital organs.  A person who is grounded and usually one who is centered has this chakra at least partially active or open.  Those who are not grounded often have this energy center less developed. 

You can also use meditation to ground yourself. Just focus your attention on your body. Start at your crown and move downward with your attention, feeling every part of your body.
Then imagine an energetic connection (a chord, a tube, or the roots of a tree) coming out of your feet, into the earth. Also visualize such a connection between your base chakra at the base of your spine and the earth, and allow these connections to go deeply into the Earth.

These are effective ways to help you ground yourself and feel more centered, strong and balanced throughout your day.

Affirmation for the Root Chakra: I am safe in the world around me. I belong in this world, and am a part of Gaia (mother-earth). I am at peace with my surroundings, with the people and the events that occur.